Or… who wants more sex?
Everyone knows that men want sex MORE than women. That men have a higher level of sexual desire, right? and yet…
60% of the more than 1000 women we surveyed said that they were as interested in sex as their husbands — or even more so.
How often you have sex is determined by how often the lower-desire partner wants it — whether that’s the man or the woman.
Although 95% of higher-desire women are either somewhat bothered by the desire gap or consider it to be a serious problem, 56% believe that their husbands aren’t bothered by it at all.
According to their wives, men’s low sexual desire is caused by erectile dysfunction only 11% of the time. The most common causes are personal issues, such as depression, fatigue, and stress.
This suggests… that not only do women sometimes have a higher drive for sex, but that when men are struggling to keep things up, couples need to explore the larger picture (depression, fatigue, a loss of passion, living fragmented lives, poor communication, etc.), and not simply look for the latest “sex secret” that will put things right.
If your lover seems to be a bit distant, and low on the sexual passion scale, consider how you might – starting today – invite them into some deeper conversation.
“An honest answer, is like a kiss on the lips.” – King Solomon, circa 1000 B.C.
Click here for some thoughts on how couples so often “slowly drift apart” with a “creeping separateness,” with some practical ideas on how we might begin to get our own “private affair” back.