Any questions?

Any Questions?

Guest Post by Jan – January 7th, 2010

How do you know when your bagpipes need tuning?

When companies ship styrofoam, what do they pack it in?

If your cat falls out of the car window, is that kitty litter?

If a pig loses its voice, is it disgruntled?

Our lives are full of questions from the silly to the sublime. New Year is a season particularly associated with asking questions; the kind that cause us to pause and ponder the year just gone by and to wonder what the new one holds – and in what ways we might give shape to it.

In his intriguing book, Questions That Work, Andrew Finlayson explores the use of questions in business situations and demonstrates the many benefits of ‘asking’ in ways that are thoughtful, focussed and probing.

As part of his research for the book he wrote to a number of successful business leaders and asked them to submit a question that struck them as especially helpful in opening up situations and helping people to see them in a fresh light. Two of the most intriguing queries were these:

What is one thing that if practised consistently would make a real impact on my life?

Is there a problem or obstacle in my life that if solved would change my life immeasurably for the better?

Two most intimate questions requiring a thoughtful and honest answer; maybe worth a quiet evening by the fire to discuss and consider.

At A Private Affair we have put together a whole boxful of conversation potential; questions that will certainly make you smile and laugh, flirt and tease, but that will also suggest opportunities for greater vulnerability, transparency and intimacy.

Andrew Finlayson suggests that many businesses fail to thrive and eventually collapse in essence because of a lack of questions: “your success depends on what questions you ask.”

New Years resolutions? Consider how a renewed curiosity about each other just might take us somewhere fresh and wild!



One Response to “Any questions?”

  1. MZ says:

    When we got our copy of A Private Affair, we joked that it didn’t come with an answer key. I’m so glad it doesn’t. There’s nothing more rewarding than discovering there are hidden treasures right inside our relationship, waiting to be explored. Sometimes all you have to do is ask the right question…

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