“It is interesting to note that engaging in sexual conversations with one’s spouse … is positively related to sexual satisfaction for both genders.”
So say Ashdown, Hackathorn & Clark in their 2011 paper “In and Out of the Bedroom: Sexual Satisfaction in the Marital Relationship.”
Their study suggests that “intimate sexual conversation increases sexual satisfaction,” especially for females. Intimate conversation seems important for arousal.
This is part of what this game is about; providing a very simple way to begin to take greater risks in talking very candidly with your beloved! A penny for your thoughts? YES!
The study sounds a bit more clinical…
It is interesting to note that engaging in sexual conversations with one’s spouse and oral sex were positively related to sexual satisfaction for both genders.
The finding that intimate sexual conversations increase sexual satisfaction for females is not surprising because it virtually replicates the findings of Barrientos and Paez (2006), who suggest that one possible explanation is that women who feel comfortable enough to communicate with their spouse on such an intimate level are much more emotionally attached to and sexually open with their partner than their more close-mouthed counterparts.
Byers and Macneil (2006) found evidence that men’s understanding of their partner’s sexual preferences predicted increased sexual satisfaction for women.
Additionally, long-term couples have likely shared each other’s ideas of sexual scripts (i.e. what actually occurs during each sexual interaction) and have a better understanding of each other’s expectations of ideal foreplay and intercourse duration (Miller & Byers, 2004).
Thus, intimate conversations with one’s partner could be an important way to gain important arousal-related information, as well as sexual confidence, intimacy, and emotional support (Barrientos & Paez, 2006), increasing sexual satisfaction not only for women, but for men as well.
– “In and Out of the Bedroom: Sexual Satisfaction in the Marital Relationship;” Ashdown, Hackathorn & Clark (2011)
In our own APA survey (under “Sex Polls” at the top of this site), almost 80% of respondents said that “talking about sex with my partner” was something that was “good” and that they wanted to do alot more!
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