Are you flying anywhere today? Aviation experts suggest that the take-off and landing are the most important, vulnerable and potentially dangerous part of the journey.
Consider also how you “take off” and “land” every day in your relationship. The leaving each other each morning, “off to work, etc.” as the take-off; the “I’m home” being the landing.
What are these like for you? How do these brief moments of transition affect your relationship? What habits and patterns make up these departures and arrivals?
We can push the analogy a bit more.
What are things like in your departure lounge each morning? And at the end of your work day, how pleasant are things at the arrival gate? What might these times look like if you and your beloved were filmed in these quick moments each day? Mayhem or something warm, even sexy? A daily crisis and hit, or something kind and suggestive? Both times can either be a strain on your relationship, or a great boost; even foreplay.
We can either help each other in these vulnerable moments, graciously and unselfishly, or we can lean hard and sometimes angrily into each other as we fuss about our checklists and wrench ourselves into the sky each morning, and back onto the tarmac each night. You may have even noticed a reluctance to offer much to each other in these moments as we indulge so easily in our own weariness and frustration.
Consider the impact that these daily goodbyes and hellos have on your relationship. What happens in the 10-30 seconds before lift-off and the same few seconds on arrival, sets the tone for the day, and the spirit of things for the evening. A great take-off and landing, or a rough take-off and landing can affect a relationship for days.
If you’re a seasoned traveler, enjoying smooth take-offs and landings, then please share an idea or two with us. What do you do to make these parts of your day great?
If you’re unhappy with too much turbulence in your daily flying, suggest something you think would really improve this part of your day with your beloved. What would you like to start doing more?